Imagine if you never needed to recharge your battery? Imagine if everything you did filled up your tea cup so you were never left feeling exhausted, sad or empty in any way? Your friends and family nourished you, your work inspired you, your mate complemented you, your surroundings uplifted you and your chores relaxed you. Would this be possible? Take a few moments, breathe and look at your life…
In my last blog, I spoke about balancing the activities you do with what you receive so you don’t get depressed. In other words, I was talking about balancing feminine and masculine energies- the energies that allow you to receive with the energies that allow you to do. Chinese philosophy speaks of the yin and the yang where seemingly opposite forces are actually complementary and interconnected. In yoga, the cosmic sound of the Universe “Aum” connects these masculine and feminine energies. The Tao speaks of the action of effortless action- non doing or Wu Wei. In this article, I would like to look at these energies differently.
By replacing the words “Doing” and “Receiving” with the word “Sharing” you may gain a new inclusive and loving perspective to your interactions. How would your relationships look if you viewed them in the context of each party sharing what they can rather than exchanging something in order to receive something back? Sharing time and resources in a spirit of everyone getting what they need. Perhaps, this would make your relationships appear less transactional and would help you move to that place of unconditional love you may be looking for. There is of course, always an exchange of sorts but the point is to become motivated by something other than getting your needs met. This may be a more conscious replacement to the “what’s in it for me” line that sadly so many live by.
Wouldn’t it be lovely if life would all be about sharing- What would you share?
Under this scenario, you would naturally do your “share” and receive your “share” and no one would be measuring. When you live in a spirit of generosity and love you are not comparing your free time to another person’s or the size of your home to that of your neighbour’s, but you trust that your true needs are always met. It may very well be that focusing more on simply “sharing” rather than “giving” and “receiving” may alleviate some of the heaviness you may experience from time to time and keep your battery from running on empty.
Nicole Rolland is the author of “Stepping into Consciousness- A Guide to Living a Life of Joy, Meaning, and Abundance” and the owner of Nicole Rolland Yoga & Meditation (NRYM)
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Are you trapped on a treadmill doing a job that is taking more and more of a toll? Do you feel that the demands being placed on you exceed the resources available? Not sleeping, eating, exercising or really having much fun?
If this sounds familiar you are not alone. You are probably headed towards the burnout zone. Sure, you can run on empty for a time but eventually you will hit a wall and crash.
What can you do to prevent this from happening?
First off, you need a holiday – a holiday from your “job”. And then you need an ongoing maintenance plan to replenish the energy you expend.
Bringing yoga into your life is no longer a luxury, a fad or a preference but a necessity to survive in today’s world. As long as you allow the practice of yoga to do its job-to yoke together Body/Mind/Spirit your job will never control your life and you will never experience burnout.
Here are my 4 tips to allow yoga to do its job so you never experience burnout:
- Chose an appropriate yoga activity. Any activity that joins together Body/Mind/Spirit will truly nourish you and provide the sustenance you need to stay grounded and centred with who you truly are. Whether it’s a yoga class, some quiet meditation or reflection time in nature, an artistic or sporting pursuit, reading, writing, cooking – anything really that brings you into the present moment – is an appropriate yoga activity. If your chosen activity leaves you feeling inadequate and in a place of judgment you are not engaged in an appropriate “yoga” activity.
- Commit to this yoga practice Allow this activity to become a practice and show up regularly – no excuses. That does not mean going to that yoga class when you have nothing to do or treating your appointment at your art studio as the least important appointment on your agenda. This means refill your tea cup as needed – called listening to your body. Everyone has their own unique rhythm. Learning what yours is, without looking at your neighbour’s, and then learning to honour it is a big step towards allowing your practice of yoga to do its job.
- Build awareness Learn to understand what is driving you. Are you being driven by the demanding voice of your ego that always wants more, bigger and better or by the gentle voice of your loving soul that wants you to remember the wholeness and perfection that you are? This is important. Don’t get me wrong: your ego is helpful and plays a crucial role in your life but it needs to be tamed. If you are working crazy hours, skipping meals and generally not taking care of what really matters, you are being bullied by your ego and have lost control.
- Feel the love Chose a heart-centred practice that helps you connect to the wisdom of your heart. If you are not feeling the love that you are and the love that is around you, you are not in balance. Think of the unconditional love you feel when you look into the eyes of a baby. Whether you are a busy, follow- the-leader type or a seasoned yogi committed to living a life of meaning – everyone goes into fear and amnesia at times. It’s your ability to restore balance and your awareness that homeostasis is missing in the first place what matters here. Regardless of your job – executive, entrepreneur, stay- at- home mom or dad, socialite, student – it’s helpful to allow whatever your yoga practice is to do its job so you don’t end up shattered. The effects of burnout can be devastating, especially if you don’t have a strong support network to help you pick up the pieces. Press pause, take a breathe and connect to who you are and to what matters. Namaste,
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