Five Tips To Enjoy Mindfulness Intimacy With Your Love Partner

Close-up of couple’s feet at luxury resort

February and Valentine’s day go together like two peas in a pod and are the perfect opportunity to discuss topics of Romance and Love- Mindful style. Together these move you to experience sacred love that connects you with your inner divinity. If you are into mindful living this is definitely the type of intimacy you want to enjoy with your lover.  


Here are my five tips to make your intimacy more mindful.

1.Release expectations. Mindful intimacy is all about enjoying the moment without looking to what’s next or what happened before. Focus on the journey and not the destination. When you can cultivate the discipline to focus on today and love what is without expectations, what happens down the road can never disappoint you.

2. Remove Judgment:Mindful intimacy is about practicing non judgmental awareness. Judgment happens in the head and mindfulness happens in the heart. You may be addicted to living in a transactional society so love that does not come with conditions may seem hard to believe in. The heart feels so if your love feels right go with it and enjoy the moment, even if it does not make complete sense in your head. If you truly are in your heart, it will eventually.


3. Transparency:  Mindful intimacy is about being open about who you love. If there is a need to keep the relationship hidden from your parents, children, friends, partner or other, you may like to rethink your relationship until conditions allow for transparency. Any worry will prevent you from being present. Be open about the relationship and private about the rest.


3. Sensual: Mindful intimacy is about engaging all seven senses so choosing the right sounds, textures, scents, food and drink, decor to encourage the gradual building of heat. Don’t forget about the sixth and seventh senses – your sense of intuition and oneness, these are key to finding the right partner to experience the divine with.  I discuss these senses in Chapter Six of my book Stepping into Consciousness- A Guide to living a Life of Joy, meaning & Abundance.


4. Simplicity: Like all things mindful, Mindful intimacy is all about keeping it simple. Simplicity helps you live in the present moment by removing stimuli that can distract, worry or make you anxious. 

And of course, don’t be shy about using your favourite essential oils- a few drops in your bathtub, massage oil or in your candle. Here are my five top Essential Oils for Lovers of Romance: Cinnamon, Ylang Ylang, Cardamon, Clove and Passion that you can get from my essential oil shop.

Release Expectations, Remove Judgment, Be Transparent, Tap into your Senses and Keep it simple so you can enjoy mindfulness in your intimate relationships, as well as, all your relationships. When you focus on loving what is, in the here and now, regardless of what happened yesterday or may happen tomorrow nothing can take away from the love you are feeling right now.

Enjoy the love!

Nicole

Nicole Rolland is the author of  “Stepping into Consciousness- A Guide to Living a Life of Joy, Meaning, and Abundance”  and the owner of Nicole Rolland Yoga & Meditation (NRYM)Nicole Rolland Yoga & Meditation Yoga, Meditation and Mindfulness Coaching
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Is Your Job Running Your Life? How Yoga Can Help Prevent Burnout

Are you trapped on a treadmill doing a job that is taking more and more of a toll? Do you feel that the demands being placed on you exceed the resources available? Not sleeping, eating, exercising or really having much fun?

If this sounds familiar you are not alone. You are probably headed towards the burnout zone. Sure, you can run on empty for a time but eventually you will hit a wall and crash.

What can you do to prevent this from happening?

First off, you need a holiday – a holiday from your “job”. And then you need an ongoing maintenance plan to replenish the energy you expend.

Bringing yoga into your life is no longer a luxury, a fad or a preference but a necessity to survive in today’s world. As long as you allow the practice of yoga to do its job-to yoke together Body/Mind/Spirit your job will never control your life and you will never experience burnout.

Here are my 4 tips to allow yoga to do its job so you never experience burnout:

  1. Chose an appropriate yoga activity.                                                             Any activity that joins together Body/Mind/Spirit will truly nourish you and provide the sustenance you need to stay grounded and centred with who you truly are. Whether it’s a yoga class, some quiet meditation or reflection time in nature, an artistic or sporting pursuit, reading, writing, cooking – anything really that brings you into the present moment – is an appropriate yoga activity. If your chosen activity leaves you feeling inadequate and in a place of judgment you are not engaged in an appropriate “yoga” activity.
  2. Commit to this yoga practice                                                                        Allow this activity to become a practice and show up regularly – no excuses. That does not mean going to that yoga class when you have nothing to do or treating your appointment at your art studio as the least important appointment on your agenda. This means refill your tea cup as needed – called listening to your body. Everyone has their own unique rhythm. Learning what yours is, without looking at your neighbour’s, and then learning to honour it is a big step towards allowing your practice of yoga to do its job.
  3. Build awareness                                                                                             Learn to understand what is driving you. Are you being driven by the demanding voice of your ego that always wants more, bigger and better or by the gentle voice of your loving soul that wants you to remember the wholeness and perfection that you are? This is important. Don’t get me wrong: your ego is helpful and plays a crucial role in your life but it needs to be tamed. If you are working crazy hours, skipping meals and generally not taking care of what really matters, you are being bullied by your ego and have lost control.
  4. Feel the love                                                                                                    Chose a heart-centred practice that helps you connect to the wisdom of your heart. If you are not feeling the love that you are and the love that is around you, you are not in balance. Think of the unconditional love you feel when you look into the eyes of a baby. Whether you are a busy, follow- the-leader type or a seasoned yogi committed to living a life of meaning – everyone goes into fear and amnesia at times. It’s your ability to restore balance and your awareness that homeostasis is missing in the first place what matters here.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Regardless of your job – executive, entrepreneur, stay- at- home mom or dad, socialite, student – it’s helpful to allow whatever your yoga practice is to do its job so you don’t end up shattered. The effects of burnout can be devastating, especially if you don’t have a strong support network to help you pick up the pieces.                                                                                                                                                     Press pause, take a breathe and connect to who you are and to what matters.                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Namaste,                                                                                                            

Nicole

Nicole Rolland- Yoga & Meditation                                                                   nicolerolland.com