How To Keep Your Ego In Check So It Does Not Hinder Your Spiritual Growth?

Living aligned with values and truth is not always easy and, even less so, when you feel pressure to compete in order to survive. With the recent explosion of all things related to wellness and health, yoga is feeling the pressure too. The proliferation of yoga has attracted a lot more resources than it has in the past, making yoga a more attractive commodity. However, dovetailing on this popularity is “bottom line” thinking needed to survive in what has become, to me, a cut throat market. This in turn, compromises yoga’s very foundation as a spiritual practice.

I believe yoga is spirituality and spirituality is yoga- they are one. Spirituality is in the realm of the soul and resides in the loving heart. It is not possible, in my humble opinion, that spirituality is connected to something other than true love. That to me, is just not spirituality. Running a business, on the other hand,  happens with the help of the ego in the head. Inevitably the ego will but heads (excuse the pun 🙂 with your Spirit. So what can you do, as a student of yoga to keep your ego in check so it does not stand in the way of your spiritual growth?

  1. Commit to your spiritual growth. One of the  many Universal laws that govern life states that if you are not growing you are shrinking. Therefore, in my opinion, when you commit to your spirituality you are also committing to growing spiritually.  Spiritual growth cannot happen unless your spirit is running the show so your ego needs to take a back seat. There is a steep learning curve here and it doesn’t take long before realizing that moving your ego from the front seat to the back takes work and then getting it to stay there takes time.
  2. Understand growth is out of your control. Growth does not happen in a vacuum. Your Spirit is unbounded and limitless and cannot be contained. There are many components to spiritual growth. First of all the three dimensions of Body/Mind/ and Spirit need to expand. Sometimes the three grow in unison and sometimes they don’t. Furthermore your B/M/Spirit needs to keep pace, without getting too far ahead or too far behind, with the growth of others around you. This further gets complicated by the fact that every living thing has a consciousness that vibrates differently and is seeking others that vibrate at the same speed. Growth seems to have a mind of its own so all you can do is learn to flow with the flow. Like a flowing river, at times the flow is strong, at others it is weak and then at others it appears stagnant.                                                                                           
  3. Notice the role your ego is playing. Your ego will want to keep you trapped in fear where you will be worried about your “safety”- lacking in financial resources, in danger or isolated somehow. This fear will push you to be in a constant state of wanting more- To fortify your fort and stockpile resources, as it were. This need for more is what keeps you trapped in stress and anxiety until you realize that you will only feel safe when you connect to your true nature. Nothing outside of you will ever provide true safety. No amount of money, status, friends, job will ever be able to create the  “safety” you are looking for. Greed and waste are the bi-products of the ego chasing after what it thinks it needs to be safe rather than what it truly desires to be free. The ego is never happy with what is. Spirituality is all about dwelling in the perfection of the present moment.
  4. Notice the role your soul is playing.  When you experience love, peace, trust and are in a place of oneness with all there is, you are living in your soul and being guided by your inner wisdom. This wisdom wants you to remember your soul and connect to its perfection.  In Oneness there can be no competition only cooperation. How can you compete with yourself?  Does your hand compete with your foot? No they both work together, honouring the different roles they each play. Likewise, how can you compete with your neighbour who is part of the same whole as you ?
  5. Notice attachments and practice detachment.  Notice what you are attached to: money, spouse, friends, family, children, pets, home,  status, health, job, addictions, youth…Detaching from your attachments does not necessarily mean letting them go, it means realizing that your “happiness” does not depend on them. Like everything in life, the magic happens when you begin to accept.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Next event in Montreal:                                                                                                     “How meditation and mindfulness can help”                                                              Info night to learn how these practices can help you lower stress and increase inner peace.                                                                                                                  Tuesday November 27, 2018 from 6.30 to 8.30 pm                                                        2962 Rue Lapierre in Lasalle.                                                                                                  RSVP to reserve your spot Here                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Namaste,


Nicole Rolland

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What Do You Hunger For?

“Twenty million people are at risk of starving to death in the crisis-afflicted countries of Nigeria, South Sudan, Somalia and Yemen” and most Americans (85%) are oblivious to the starvation crisis overseas, reads the Huffington Post this week. With today’s global network of information dissemination how is it possible that so many people are unaware of such a disaster?

It is true that relief often comes in the form of copious amounts of money and time being thrown to a problem. Luckily we have many organizations whose mission it is to offer assistance to people and countries in distress. However, this comes at a price when it releases us of responsibility. We easily refer to any crisis that happens outside of our front door as a  “Someone else will take care of this” type of problem. This kind of thinking simply fuels future crisis to take root and to be ignored.

People who are consumed by greed are so focused on their need for “more” that they cannot process distress that does not directly affect them.

What can you, as a spiritually aware and mature person, do?

You need to care and this means you need to feel. If you can’t feel, you probably don’t care and you most certainly need to heal on some level.   Everyone is responsible for their life and is being called to take responsibility for the life they create for themselves. In todays world, the need for others to play “rescuer”, “victim” or “saboteur” is increasingly being replaced by the need for others to “care and hold space”.

Bottom line is you cannot do the “work” for someone else but you can care and hold sacred space for people and countries who are learning. Caring is not feeling pity, because that suggests condescension. Caring is not trying to solve problems for others because that is disempowering. Caring is not trying to teach anything because that suggests inequality and caring is certainly not blaming others for the situation they may find themselves in- no matter how dire. Caring is really a state of offering love and sharing in the trust that a solution will be found in due course.

Satisfy your hunger

So connect to your breath, breathe deeply and send prayers to the people in Africa now in distress, to the suffering countries and to their governments. While you’re at it send blessings and prayers to every soul on this planet who is suffering from their own personal brand of starvation and then connect to what you hunger for….and know that with love and trust you will no longer hunger for anything.



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